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Showing posts with label homeschooling trials. Show all posts

More Misconceptions About Homeschoolers

I visit the Dr. Phil message board from time to time when I need material or a good laugh. Honestly some of the statements the public school advocates make are sooooooooooooooo stupid they are funny. Here are some gems from Teachsmiles (who claims to be a public school teacher).
I believe parents who choose to homeschool their children are selfish and lack confidence in their parenting skills. The parents who decide to unschool are just plain uneducated, as most of us agree. I too would love to homeschool my youngest child, 8 years old, but it is absolutely for selfish reasons. I would enjoy spending more time with her and protecting her from life's difficulties.
I am so tired of hearing how homeschoolers are selfish. Since I covered this in a previous post I'll just give you the link to my post The Other S Word . Now for the uneducated part of her statement. Many of the homeschooling parents I know have Masters, Bachelors or Associates degrees. I myself have an Associates degree and my hubby has a Bachelors, so maybe Teachsmiles can explain how she could possibly consider us uneducated? Could it possibly be because my husband was Valedictorian of his public school class? Or maybe it was because I only graduated with honors from my public school?
Homeschooling & going to school are NOT the same thing done in different measures. Homeschool (as you say) may be better for some children, however, homeschooling is not good for the adult that child will become. That parent will forever be raising that child or feeling the crippling left by the child "flying the coup". I believe the child can be successful in any environment of education or be unsuccessful, IT IS ALL ABOUT THE PARENTS!
Oh PLEASE! My goal as a homeschool mother is to see my children go to college and embark on successful careers. I was thrilled when my 16 year old gained early admission to college. At 17 he is in his second year of a Computer Science Degree, he made the Dean's List and he works part time at Sicily's Pizza. His “flying the coup” certainly does not cripple me; I am enjoying the extra free time I have. And he is more then capable of taking care of himself as I raised him to be self-sufficient. Most homeschool parents I know have made "plans" for what they are going to do once their homeschooling journey ends; for some that means going back to a full time career they put on a back burner in order to homeschool, for others it means going back to working full time instead of part time and for others it means getting more involved in charity work or pursing hobbies.
Parenting is the biggest job in society and if you are too afraid to parent fully then you are not doing your job. Part of parenting is preparing children to function as contributing educated citizens of society, not parenting "willy nilly as you please". Stand up and be proud! Have the faith in how you raise your children that they will prosper and succeed in PS education. Do not be a controlling feeble minded person who fears & controls all 24 hours of their child's life. "How will they survive without you?"
I pity the students who get stuck with Teachsmiles as a teacher. Her remarks show how bigoted she is against homeschoolers. Homeschooling parents prepare their children to function as contributing educated citizens of society. We instill them with things like a work ethic, and the knowledge that punctuality is important, two things employers find very desirable. We teach them to be self-sufficient so they can survive without us. We allow them to make choices and explore the world and offer a helping hand when they ask for our guidance. What's the problem with that?

The Other S Word

For some reason in today's politically correct world, it's still OK to bash homeschoolers.



First homeschoolers were attacked on the academic front. How could parents possibly be qualified to teach their own children unless they had teacher's certificates? But numerous articles and studies proved homeschoolers had academics covered. One example Home-Schooled Kids Defy Stereotypes, Ace SAT Test By DANIEL GOLDEN


Jason Scoggins will never graduate from high school, have a class rank or be recommended by his guidance counselor. But Oglethorpe University wants him anyway. Jason, who is 17 years old, was home-schooled by his mother. After he scored 1,570 out of a possible 1,600 on his SAT college-admissions test -- with a perfect 800 in math -- Oglethorpe invited him to compete with other top applicants for five scholarships valued at about $100,000 apiece. Of the 94 prospects in the Jan. 22 contest, eight were home-schoolers, each with SATs above 1,300.The high scores are no fluke. As the movement grows larger and more diverse, evidence is mounting that home-schooling, once confined to the political and religious fringe, has achieved results not only on par with public education, but in some ways surpassing it. Though home-schooling may never be feasible for most families, the data offer little comfort to those who advocate a standardized curriculum as the best hope for improving American education. After all, each home-based pupil follows a unique lesson plan.

Then public school advocates advanced the myth that homeschoolers are social retards, who would be unable to make it in the "real" world. Jeez I wish somebody had told me I was living in an alternate universe, I have been suffering from the delusion that my family was living in the "real" world. Of course the spreaders of this malicious lie never mention famous, successful homeschoolers like Christopher Paolini (he wrote a best selling novel while in his teens and sold the rights to the book, the movie Eragon is out now). They also neglect to mention all the studies that prove that homeschoolers are at least as well socialized as their public school peers and in some instances may have the advantage over their public school peers. From the ERIC Digest Home Schooling and Socialization of Children by Nola Kortner Aiex


Stough (1992),looking particularly at socialization, compared 30 home-schooling families and 32 conventionally schooling families, families with children 7-14 years of age. According to the findings, children who were schooled at home "gained the necessary skills, knowledge, and attitudes needed to function in society...at a rate similar to that of conventionally schooled children." The researcher found no difference in the self concept of children in the two groups. Stough maintains that"insofar as self concept is a reflector of socialization, it would appear that few home-schooled children are socially deprived, and that there may be sufficient evidence to indicate that some home-schooled children have a higher self concept than conventionally schooled children." This echoes the findings of Taylor (1987). Using one of the best validated self-concept scales available, Taylor's random sampling of home-schooled children (45,000) found that half of these children scored at or above the 91st percentile--47% higher than the average, conventionally schooled child. He concludes: "Since self concept is considered to be a basic dynamic of positive sociability, this answers the often heard skepticism suggesting that home schoolers are inferior in socialization" (Taylor, 1987). From the findings of these two studies, it would appear that the concerns expressed by teachers, administrators, and legislators about socialization and home schooling might be unfounded. Indeed, Bliss (1989) contends that it is in the formal educational system's setting that children first experience negative socialization, conformity, and peer pressure. According to her, "This is a setting of large groups, segmented by age, with a variation of authority figures...the individual, with his/her developmental needs, becomes overpowered by the expectations and demand of others--equal in age and equally developmentally needy."

So after homeschoolers PROVE they aren't damaging their children academically or socially you would think they would leave us alone right? After all their mantra is "we just want what's best for the kids and we know what's best for your kids". But NO, then they attack homeschoolers for being "selfish". We may be giving our kids a wonderful education with numerous academic and social opportunities but what about the "poor" kids stuck in public schools? Tammy Takahashi at Just Enough, and Nothing More has a post, Are Homeschooler's Selfish? , on this very subject.



I find it annoying that these people expect me to sacrifice my children for the "greater good", and exactly what benefit is it to society to prevent children from reaching their full potential? While these proponents of the public school system would shudder in horror at the idea that THEY should live in public housing or receive medical care from the state health department, instead of living in nice houses in "high-end" neighborhoods (so their kids can attend the best public schools) or utilizing private health care, in order to get the best medical care available. They see no hypocrisy in insisting that everyone should make use of the public school system rather it meets their family's needs or not.



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Wrapping Presents & Homeschooling

Four days till...........................Lord Epa's birthday! and I have yet to get his presents wrapped. I was going to wrap them last Monday while the guys were at soccer practice, but I got offered a deal I couldn't pass up. IF I would take Lord Epa to soccer practice Hubby would install my new washing machine. It's the Cadillac of washing machines, it even has a hand wash cycle and can handle bulky bedding. Now all those lovely hand wash only sweaters I have can just be thrown in the washing machine, there was always Thursday night to wrap the gifts. But then Hubby came home from work sick, so guess who took Lord Epa to soccer practice? I still have the Monday before his birthday left and I suppose I can lock myself in my bedroom and wrap presents IF worse comes to worse. How I am going to smuggle the presents from their various hiding places to my bedroom with Lord Epa underfoot is a problem yet to be solved. And then there is Christmas. Yikes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At least I can wrap Shining Celebi's presents while he is at work, since yesterday was his final day of college exams and if Hubby's Christmas present ever gets here I can wrap it while he is at work. But when oh when am I going to wrap Lord Epa's?

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